“Thousands of people every year, all over the world, learn that they’re kinky. This happens through small, private, erotic acts of discovery. They stumble across a porn site where something catches the eye — a horse bit in a performer’s mouth…”

link: http://www.advocate.com/sexy-beast/2017/4/21/patrick-smith-leaving-marks-kink-culture

“Angela,

I’ll admit I was a little nervous to ask this question, but from reading your other articles, it sounds like you’re someone who’s open to trying new things, so I’m assuming you won’t judge.”

link: http://miamistudent.net/ask-angela-embrace-the-kinks-how-to-enter-the-world-of-bdsm/

“If you’re unfamiliar with the BDSM scene, you might think it’s all whips, handcuffs, and pleasurable pain, but there’s one important element that BDSM practitioners have built into their sex lives to make sure that everyone involved feels safe and cared for after play time is over: a practice known as aftercare. And whether you’re into BDSM or have more vanilla tastes, aftercare is something everyone should be doing.”

link: http://www.refinery29.com/what-is-bdsm-sex-aftercare

“…But since people will still be asking this question (and I’ll still be unable to resist the compulsion to answer) when I’m 97 and senile, I might as well go ahead and write my “definitive” answer to this question now; that way it won’t matter if I go all soft in the brains department, I can just refer to my notes that say, “This is your opinion on such-and-such, remember?”

So what is the difference between a submissive and a slave?”

link: http://www.katekinsey.com/the-difference-between-a-slave-and-a-submissive.html

“I heard the terms “lifestyle domme” and “professional domme” one too many times, especially on the fem- domme websites. My question is what the hell is the difference? You kinky folk are so confusing with your terms. Please explain the difference to a simpleton like me…”

link: http://www.miaminewtimes.com/arts/lifestyle-dominants-and-professional-dominants-cant-we-all-just-get-along-6493687

“We think “Dominant” and immediately fantasize about power and control and exercising those desires, without acknowledging the reality that we are not the only person here. Somehow that can get lost and we assume that “Dominant” means just that, and the other person is just a replaceable prop we are playing with… Here are three key factors a Dominant must keep in mind at all times when embarking on a BDSM relationship with a submissive.”

link: http://www.yourtango.com/2017301165/what-it-means-be-true-dominant-bdsm-relationship-submissive

“Not abusive or deviant, this sexual kink is based on communication, consent and trust, says a ‘professional’ Sub(missive) Asmi Uniqus. Here’s a quick myth buster…”

link: http://www.dnaindia.com/india/report-untying-that-knotty-bdsm-2358376

“Within the incredibly diverse LGBT community, the worldwide Leather/fetish/kink family is undoubtedly one of its most close-knit subcultures. Leathermen, Leatherwomen, and their allies have created a large and diverse — yet simultaneously intimate — network from Amsterdam to New York City…”

link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jed-ryan/american-masterslave-stor_b_10056986.html

“A new documentary about ‘pup play,’ the (often though not always sexual) act of dressing and inhabiting the role of a dog while another person takes on the role of handler or trainer, is about to be unleashed on Great Britain’s Channel 4, bringing new focus to a subculture that—according to some members—is ready to go mainstream…”

link: http://jezebel.com/forever-in-the-dog-house-these-men-live-their-lives-as-1778635750

“It all started with Helena. For me, she is everything. As I sat alone one night, in the middle of the Omani desert, feeling gross and broken and alone, Helena had my back. I needed a friend, and she, as best friends do, showed up…”

link: http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2016/04/19/how_shakespeare_helped…